Everyone But Myself

Everyone But Myself

Julie Chavez

Published January 9, 2024


A USA TODAY Bestseller


Funny, honest, and inspiring for readers feeling overwhelmed by life, Everyone But Myself is like a best friend’s story of how she returned to solid ground while embracing chaos along the way.


Featured in The Washington Post, She Reads Most Anticipated, and The New York Post


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For Julie, an elementary school librarian and mother of two boys, there was no time for debilitating anxiety. Yet the terrifying aftershocks of her first panic attack left her grappling with questions about the causes of her mental health crisis and where it would lead next.

What follows is a hopeful, honest account of love and loss, a husband who can’t read minds, disastrous family outings, and finding a path (with help from loved ones and a few key new friends) to the joy of a well-lived life.

Sure to resonate with mothers spread thin by the demands of modern family life, Everyone But Myself offers an intimate portrait of how one woman found her way back to herself.

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What people are saying...

“Chavez shows readers what happens when a loving and well-loved mother finds herself so depleted from the quotidian demands of her life that she suffers a panic attack. Wise and hilarious, Chavez had me rooting for her from page one. Her story will be a hopeful beacon to anyone standing on shaky ground."

Christie Tate

author of Group

“Friends, do yourself a favor and read Julie Chavez's tender-hearted memoir! I read this book in one fell swoop, gasping with recognition on every single page, and finishing with the wonderful feeling that I was not alone in the world.”

Joanna Rakoff

author of My Salinger Year

“We flipped over Julie Chavez’s book. Hilarious. Poignant. Overall awesome. This is one of those books that we know our fellow moms out there will be obsessed with.”

Cat and Nat

coauthors of Cat and Nat's Mom Secrets: Coffee-Fueled Confessions from the Mom Trenches

“I can’t remember the last time I read a book with so much heart. Every page is full of love—love for her family, her friends, her job. And love for the life she’s built, one that seems in danger of disappearing as she struggles with her mental health."

Kristin van Ogtrop

author of Did I Say That Out Loud?: Midlife Indignities and How to Survive Them

“A balm for the working mother and for caregivers of all kinds, Everyone But Myself reminds us that the business of living is predicated upon the relationships we forge with ourselves. With tenderness, warmth, and an attentive eye, Chavez documents the journey of a woman learning to belong to herself. This beautifully written memoir is a road map for learning to live with great love, essential service, and a bold, unbreakable commitment to our own sacred needs.”

Abby Maslin

author of Love You Hard: A Memoir of Marriage, Brain Injury, and Reinventing Love

“When you are used to giving to others but saving nothing for yourself, the sense of depletion is so strong it’s hard to make changes. In this thoughtful, gentle memoir, Chavez shows how she began to choose herself, and, little by little, regain hope and purpose. I found myself grateful Chavez began to take steps to choose herself, and hopeful that I could do the same.”

Anna Whiston Donaldson

author of Rare Bird: A Memoir of Loss and Love

“In the space of one summer, illness and tragedy threaten a woman’s sense of self and her professional and domestic stability, too. But little by little, with the help of those who love her (and assists from brand-new friends), [Chavez] finds her way back to mental health and joyfulness in this candid and deeply heartfelt memoir that will resonate with any reader who has struggled to be all that the world asks.”

Courtney Maum

author of The Year of the Horses: A Memoir

“In this beautifully written and brutally honest memoir, Chavez takes the reader on a journey through the trials of motherhood, mental health, and self-discovery. We walk away with a renewed ability to accept our frailty, leading us to a place of self-kindness, mindfulness, and common humanity.”

Stephanie Thornton Plymale

author of American Daughter, CEO of Heritage School of Interior Design, and founder of Heritage Home Foundation

“Chavez’s book gently—and sometimes not so gently—suggests that finding the words to ask for mental health help isn’t the hardest part, that it’s actually acknowledging the roadblocks we’ve been taught to just push through. Her journey is a vulnerable one, yes, but also bitingly funny and incredibly relatable. She’s the reassuring pal we all need, the one who’ll show up with an armload of lattes and color-coded pens and paper so when she says the struggle is real and hand-draws you a map of her personal exit route? What a gift.”

Keely Flynn

award-winning arts columnist and humorist for Chicago Parent Magazine

"If you find yourself overwhelmed and teetering on the edge (like most of us): don't panic. Take a deep breath and reach for Everyone But Myself. Julie Chavez (your new best friend) will reach back and help you find solid ground in this funny and heartwarming memoir."

Jen Mann

author of Midlife Bites: Anyone Else Falling Apart, Or Is It Just Me?

“Everything about Chavez’s story of managing motherhood, work, marriage, anxiety, and finding the ways that helped her through spoke to me. Her fresh, honest, hilarious voice makes her so relatable. This is the perfect memoir for any mom who feels pulled in a million directions.”

Jill Smokler

author of Confessions of a Scary Mommy: An Honest and Irreverent Look at Motherhood - The Good, The Bad, and the Scary and founder of Scary Mommy and She’s Got Issues

Why Zibby Loves It…

I fell in love with Julie when I met her in my online book club. The same way that she made me laugh and smile and think and feel during our discussions is how I feel about her amazing, voice-driven, sensitive, and heartfelt memoir. Her experiences will undoubtedly help so many parents struggling to keep it all together. This is the memoir you’ll want to give your best friend.

Immersive and thought-provoking, Everyone But Myself is the perfect reminder to put your own oxygen mask on first.