Dr. Casandra Henriquez, PRINCESS ZARA'S BIRTHDAY TRADITION

Dr. Casandra Henriquez, PRINCESS ZARA'S BIRTHDAY TRADITION

Zibby Owens: About a month ago, I interviewed Dr. Casandra Henriquez, she goes by the name Coach Cass, for my Instagram Live show. We had a great time talking about her children’s book which is called Princess Zara’s Birthday Tradition. My daughter who’s almost seven is a particularly big fan of Princess Zara. We got along great and had a really nice conversation. I then was able to include Princess Zara’s Birthday Tradition in an article I wrote for The Washington Post where I did a roundup of some really great children’s books that have come out recently. Now I’m interviewing Coach Cass again. I’m really happy that she said yes. I reached out to her in the midst of this Black Lives Matter Blackout Tuesday period of time. I wanted to see if she would be open to just having a really warm, open dialogue about what’s going on, what she thinks everyone can do to help, and what her point of view was on the whole situation. I just wanted to listen. I know that is the mandate of this week. I am firmly in support of all of it and am standing by everyone to support the valiant, important mission of the Black Lives Matter movement. I think it’s really important to amplify black voices right now. I wanted to start by doing this conversation and just letting Coach Cass have a platform to talk about how she feels. As you’ll hear, it was really emotional and open and really important. She gave some really great, specific, actionable tips for the rest of us.

As a bio, just so you know a little more about her, Coach Cass is also a love coach and matchmaker for successful women with a company called InspireMany.com. She’s been a TedX presenter. She’s the creator of the Love Deck, dating conversation cards. Her voice has been on weekly on the number-one radio show in South Florida. She’s hosted a TV show called Fiscally Fit. She’s been mentioned and featured in Woman’s Day, Fast Company, The Washington Post, Forbes, and Black Enterprise to name a few. She currently lives with her daughter, Ava, and her husband. Listen to our conversation. I really hope you get something good out of it. I know I did. I know she did. Just listen. That’s really the first step. Come along for the ride with me and listen to what Coach Cass has to say. I’m curious to know your thoughts afterwards. As she says at the end, now that we know, we all have an obligation to really help. That’s what I am really trying to do. Have a listen. Thanks to Coach Cass for doing this with me.

Coach Cass, here we are. Thank you for doing this with me.

Dr. Casandra Henriquez: You’re welcome, Zibby. Thank you for reaching out.

Zibby: I reached out to you because obviously, as you know, the world is now exploding in so many ways. We’re in the midst of now, as we’re talking, the blackout for the week, #StayMuted for #BlackLivesMatter. I was thinking to myself, what can I do? The whole thing is, let’s listen. I want to give the platform over. I thought of you because I had such a great conversation with you. I hate to even draw attention to the fact that we’re of different races. I rarely do in my podcast because for me it’s usually just about the books, what book is speaking to me. I want to be mindful and give the opportunity to just discuss and hear what you’re feeling, not to make you some sort of ambassador of your entire race.

Cass: I was like, the pressure is on.

Zibby: I wouldn’t like somebody to say, “Zibby, please represent every Jewish person in the world.” I’d be like, what? I don’t know. I only know what I think. I’m not trying to position you that way. I’m just curious as to how you’re feeling and what you think of the whole thing and what we all can do to help the mission.

Cass: Zibby, you just gave me like a five-hour talk. You just asked some pretty loaded questions. Can we take one at a time?

Zibby: Yeah, sorry about that.

Cass: Number one, I do not represent every black person. My background, I’m of Jamaican heritage. My family emigrated from Jamaica decades ago to New York. I grew up a New Yorker. Then I moved to South Florida. I’m married to a Haitian. Now we have a little baby Jamaitian. She’s Jamaican and Haitian. My family, in terms of race, is the gambit from white to black because “Out of Many, One People” is the motto of Jamaica. I have Lebanese in me. I have Scottish. I have English in me. I have white in me. I have black in me. I’m Jamaican. I remember asking my grandfather, which I really suspect was white, Zibby, I really, really think he was, but I asked him one time, I said, “Grandpa, are you white?” He’s like, “Listen here, girl. I’m Jamaican.” I was like, okay, all right. There it is. Sometimes it’s confusing in terms of identity. I’m Caribbean American. When it comes to the box, I get really confused sometimes. Am I black today? Am I African American today? Am I Caribbean American today? You’re never enough for whatever box. I didn’t sit on the stoop in Brooklyn, so maybe I’m not New Yorker enough. I didn’t know all the things of Jamaica, the back hills of Jamaica and all that stuff, so maybe I’m not Jamaican enough. I just had to come to terms with being enough for me and representing who I am.

Really, with Zara and Ziggy, just to revisit why that even came to be is because I was looking for birthday paraphernalia and books for my daughter having a black princess on it like her, and I couldn’t find it. She was really into princesses. When I first created the character, she said, “Mommy, I don’t want this one. I want the other one. I want the white one.” I didn’t know it was that deep, Zibby. Racism or feeling less than started from the age of two with my child, the age of two. Harvard studies show that racism usually starts around three and being proud of whiteness, around five. It’s like, whoa. I didn’t teach this to my kid. Out of many, one people. I pride myself, in terms of my circle, being very mixed in terms of cultures. It’s been scary. This whole thing has been scary for me. It has amplified the need for Princess Zara and why I’m on a mission for it to become a mainstream cartoon. When we turn on the TV, we have Tiana and that’s it, maybe.

This whole thing has just been like, whoa, systemic racism is a thing. It’s a huge thing. I have attended unconscious bias classes, unraveling our system. What can we do? Black, white, other, everything in between, how can we work together? To understand that the way America is set up is not for the average black person to win is scary. That’s just because of the color of the skin. You didn’t wake up and say, I want to be Jewish Zibby today. You were born into your family. You were born into your skin color. You were born into your circumstance, as was I. Now, I was privileged enough to have Caribbean parents that had a different way of doing things. What if you were born into poverty? As a black person, there’s so many videos on social media right now just educating people about systemic racism and the fact that our public school systems get their money from property taxes, but if you live in a poorer neighborhood, the property taxes aren’t that great compared to in a richer neighborhood. In the poorer neighborhood, you might have one computer that everybody has to share. In the richer neighborhood, everybody gets a computer and an iPad and books at home and a tutor. Then even if you defeat all the odds and you go to a college like my husband, Florida State University, or me, Florida International University, and you get your master’s and you’re getting your doctorate, you’re doing these amazing things, still and still, you have to work that much harder to get where the average white, middle-class American is. It’s crazy. It’s absolutely crazy. The tip of the balance, and it’s just based on skin color?

Zibby, this is what I had to ask myself. When does racism start? When does it start? I’ll tell you, my child is three now. I plan to send her to a private school, a very good private school, in a year or two when she’s ready for kindergarten. I emailed the principal, the administration, the elementary principal, and essentially the church because it’s Christian school. I asked them, “How do you create equity at your school? Do you celebrate Black History Month? Do you highlight black people outside of Black History Month?” Just think about it. A lot of middle America, they don’t celebrate black history, and then Black History Month, and then every day. What does look like? I got a message from the elementary principal saying, “We celebrate all people.” That word all is killing me, Zibby, the all. They’re just not getting it. “We celebrate all people. Yes, we do Black History Month. Yes, we highlight black people.” It just wasn’t enough for me. Do you create a safe space for your young black boys to speak up? Do you highlight black students? Understand, more than likely, they are feeling more oppression just from sitting in your classroom of mixed race. Just knowing that, take a look — I invited them — I haven’t gotten the email back yet, but I invited them over the summer — we have the whole summer. I know you also need to have COVID new rules to do with your classrooms. I know that’s a lot of stress. Also, I want you to review all the books in your classroom, the imagery in your classroom, the color of the crayons in your classroom, the diversity in the books, the activity worksheets, the examples and the videos that you send home.

When you start to realize that about ninety-nine percent of our stuff is white and looks nothing like half of the kids in the class, it’s a problem, Zibby. I’m getting so worked up over it because I specifically went out and bought multicultural crayons. Yes, I have free coloring sheets for Princess Zara, but the regular crayon in the box is just not a cute color. The black-black, no, she’s like a mocha brown. Where’s the mocha brown? Where’s the caramel brown? Where’s my color? What color is this? Being able to realize that diversity — there’s a lot to be done. When I get the worksheets, it’s upsetting. It’s upsetting to me. Even looking at the images of Jesus, everywhere it’s white Jesus. It’s like, Jesus had a tan. Maybe he wasn’t dark skin, but he had a tan. How come there is nothing out there with a tan on Jesus? It has been a lot. In terms of what I personally have done, I at least reached out to a school. I have reached out to my school district in terms of getting Princess Zara into the hands of every child in the school system. The thing is, it’s not just for black students to have a black princess. I need the white, the Asian, the Hispanic because when we create that level playing field that, you know what, black is respectable, it’s cool.

Just think about it. How do we learn about black people in history? They were slaves. MLK did some good things, but he was assassinated. Malcolm X, assassinated. When we talk about all these amazing things that black people did, it’s like this counteract to oppress us in the narrative. Even to that school that I emailed, Zibby, I asked them, I said, “Do you teach about the African kings and queens?” The people were taken as slaves from Africa. More than likely, they were royalty. Africa is a rich country. What do you do to highlight that? Then the response was, “Well, I don’t know if schools cover African history.” I’m like, “Well, they need to.” If the only back narrative of America, black starting here, is slavery, I need you to take it one step back to help paint the full picture. Right now as a white child sitting in a classroom, I learn, black and white, you couldn’t eat, you couldn’t drink water, you couldn’t do what I did, so you’re not as good as me. Maybe things got done, but when we talk about race in the classroom, it’s usually, this is what was wrong with black people and why they couldn’t do what the white kids did. If I’m white, I’m like, oh, okay. Then the black kids are like, oh, man, I couldn’t do that? So then the black parents at home have to do this extra reprogramming of, you’re so beautiful. Black is beautiful. Let me buy you dolls. Let me tell you how gorgeous you are. Let me tell you how smart you are. The parents have to do all the extra emphasis. The churches have to do, God loves all. Everyone is equal. The synagogues, everybody has to do all of this extra work that if our schools really started to teach our children properly in terms of creating equity, I think we’d be much further. Literally, a hundred percent of our future starts with our children.

Zibby: Wow.

Cass: Hey, you just asked me a million things.

Zibby: I know. I did. It was my fault.

Cass: I saw you weren’t interrupting me, so I was like, okay, I’ll keep going.

Zibby: Keep going. I loved it. I love hearing what you have to say. It’s so true. It’s some of the things that would not have occurred to me, even about the crayons. That’s just a simple fix once you realize it’s a problem. I think that’s part of what this whole thing is trying to show. Some of these things, if you just are aware, then you start to fix it. It’s so interesting how you say that about children. I’m wondering if you think there are things for grownups. Is it too late for the rest of us? I don’t think so. What can we as grownups do?

Cass: My background is in public health. I go back to systemic root cause of things. For the adults, it’s definitely not too late. I actually like this movement to amplify black voices. I’m going to tell you something, Zibby, that I haven’t shared publicly with anyone. I’ve been promoting this book for maybe two months now. You and one other mom were very open and like, let’s put this out there. You went the extra mile to help promote the book. I have white friends, Zibby, and it wasn’t until all of this happened that I saw the extra effort to help promote, to help share the vision, to help say, this is something that’s needed. I’m like, why did I take a national war for you to speak up? You’re my friend. We break bread. Our children play. We hang out. You know why I started this. You tell me, I’m so supportive. The share button, which costs no one anything, didn’t get hit until Blackout Tuesday. It’s tough. My husband’s like, “You should be excited that they shared.” I’m like, yes, a part of me is excited that they shared. A part of me is saddened when they shared. I’ve been promoting this thing. We hit number-one best seller without, really, my white friends being behind me. It’s just like, what the heck? I make no excuses for it. I don’t want to know the story behind the story. I’m just saying it is what it is, and I noticed. I’m talking about business friends, mastermind friends, white clients, all of it. It took all of this for you to be like, you know what, you’re doing something pretty cool. Maybe I should buy your book. Maybe I should tell my friends to buy your book. Where was that love and coolness two months ago? It’s never too late. I’m still appreciative. You are here sharing my story and the story of those whose who identify with what I’m saying. It’s still so sad. It’s still so sad. I’m grateful.

For the adults, I did post the other day, look into spending twenty-five percent of your monthly expenses with a black business. When you think about it, you have to go out of your way. We had to travel to a supermarket thirty minutes from our house. She had to go out of her way to support black business. I hear you tell me there’s a whole book about the Jewish phenomenon about how Jewish people really go out of their way to help each other. The dollar in the Jewish community turns over eight times. In the black community, it’s like one time. How do we, on the other side, say, my white allies, my Hispanic allies, how about you support us? What does that look like? What does your hairdresser look like, your nail specialist, your daycare, your church, your synagogue, your earrings, your haircare products? Whatever it is, have you made a list of all the things that you really spend money on each month? Have you said, let me try and support a black person?

At the end of the day, this is an economic famine. The dollar goes further in the black community. It means so much more. A black restaurant, just think about it, nine out of ten restaurants go out of business. When’s the last time you purposely went out of your way to buy from a black restaurant? Try black food and different cultures. I’m just putting black on everything, but there’s many different layers to black. We got Jamaican. We got Haitian. Shoot, we got black Italian. There’s so many mixed race. There’s so much to support. Yes, it is a cognizant effort for our allies to say, you know what, this is something I need to do. Before I go to Macy’s or Nordstrom to buy my pretty dress, is there is a custom seamstress or designer that’s black that I can then help to promote? Then promote. Say where you got it from. Share the picture. Share the resource. Tell a friend. Text somebody. Just like when you get excited about anything else, your new show on Netflix, I need you to also get excited about supporting a black business.

Zibby: What about people recommending particular books? There are a lot of books now — I’m blanking on any. There’s a whole list going around.

Cass: White Fragility, yeah.

Zibby: Yeah, and How to Be an Antiracist, White Supremacy and Me, and all these books that now everyone’s like, read these books, read these books. Is that a good thing? Is that bad thing? Is that offensive?

Cass: No, I don’t think it’s offensive at all. I specifically have a Bible study group of which I have white women in my Bible study group. They honestly were like, “Yo, I didn’t know. I’m sorry.” A part of you is like, what you mean you didn’t know? Then at the same time, what do we talk about in Bible study? God’s love. How are the kids? Nobody’s really talking about, when I walk down the street, someone crossed the street because I was black or whatever else. Those conversations don’t come up in normal conversation. We talk about normal stuff like how you and I talked about normal stuff. Your child traced the unicorn, yay! So we’re not talking about the madness of being black and white and the difference. I do think those antiracism resources are amazing. I haven’t read them. I have seen, in some of my business groups, where white women spoke up about books that they read. They’re like, “This challenged me, how I was raised. I do see that I have privilege.” The thing is that most of us don’t know that we’re prejudiced or we’re racist. I remember going to a diversity and inclusion workshop. Specifically, the speaker put pictures. Just imagine this, a picture of an Indian woman, an Indian man, a white woman that was pregnant, a white man in those marinas, a wife beater, a black man, a black woman with natural hair, an Indian woman. It was like, write down your immediate thoughts about these people. Me, black Jamaican New Yorker, wrote down. She was like, “Which one of these people would you trust?” You know who I chose to trust? I chose to trust the Indian woman with the hijab and the black woman with the natural hair. Everybody else, I was like, I don’t know. He’s smiling a little weird. I don’t know about you. This was just pictures, normal people in pictures.

We all have prejudice within us. It is important for you to say, what are my prejudices? Let me explore that. Then let me squash it. Is that real? Is that right? Is that forward-thinking? We have to do this on a daily basis. When your picture comes up on a screen, people might say, Zibby, blah, blah, blah, blah, and they don’t know you. This could be other white Jewish women. It could be other black women, whoever. It’s our own prejudices that we need to deal with. Those antiracism resources I think are a great start, and then also diversifying your circle. If your circle is oh-so-white, y’all talking about being antiracist all day long, it’s like the blind leading the blind. You know I’m a love coach, so this is what I tell my single professional ladies. If you just surround yourself with single ladies all day, it’s the blind leading the blind. You’re just on one thing. Oh, this app. I don’t know about this app. I don’t know what a man wants. Oh, men suck. That’s the conversation all day. You’re not growing. You need my help. With those circles, you want to make sure that there’s more diversity in your circles. What kind of schools are you sending your children to? Is there diversity there? All black, all white isn’t good. Diversity in your schools, being able to say, let’s do playdates with this black family. Let’s make friends with a black family. Then let’s eat bread and just have fun with people. We’re not necessarily saying, do you see that little Billy is black? What do you think about black? It doesn’t have to be that. It’s like, Billy’s cool. Joey’s cool. We have a good time together. It’s that simple for helping our children understand that having friendships outside of our race is good. They got to see Mommy and Daddy doing that as well. If Mommy and Daddy don’t have no friends that don’t look like them, that’s not really setting the right example. Where do you find black friends? Message somebody on Instagram. Send a DM. You want to be my friend? I need friends.

Being able to start to diversify and even hire black coaches — Zibby, this is a whole nother thing. You see I’m light skinned. I’m light. I have white in me somewhere. What’s so crazy to me is that the majority of my clients are black. I do not consider myself a black coach. I do not market myself as a black coach. I do not do black-only conversation. Love is a universal conversation. Yet black women are attracted to me. The white women I have had as clients mainly have been one on one and have been very targeted referrals versus just in the air saw me somewhere and was like, I need to hire this lady, which is crazy to me. I start to see that in different arenas. When you see coaches out there and they’re putting on events and it’s a black coach, more than likely the entire audience, no matter if it’s a thousand people, is black with a few sparsed in. I see that when there’s a white coach or a speaker, look at all the diversity. Everybody signs up. What is that? Then that’s something else to think about. As a white person watching this right now, where do you go for advice? Is it only white? Do you diversify the coaches and the personal development that you invest into? Who are you listening to? I invite you to invest in black business when it comes to your coaches, to your mentors, to the people that you are looking at. Have you ever picked up a TD Jakes podcast? Being able to diversify who you’re listening to because if it’s all white, it’s all one thing. Me as a black person, most black people have a whole diversity in who they listen to because we understand it’s what’s out there and we’re looking to get the best information. I notice that that’s also unequal in terms of the personal development space as well.

Zibby: Very interesting.

Cass: Zibby. Girl.

Zibby: You’re awesome. Here’s what you should do. You should open your own school because I’m a little nervous that you reached out to the admission director with all those questions before getting into the school. Not to say you’re not going to get in, I’m sure you will, but just in case. You are so talented. Seriously, people need leaders and educators who can tell it like it is the way that you’re doing and who can give the examples that you’re saying. Not that you need to open a school in your spare time, but that would be great.

Cass: It’s on the list of the many to-do lists. Right now, we want Princess Zara to be a mainstream cartoon on like a PBS. That’s the focus right now. We’ll see. Hopefully, I didn’t get kicked out just from Mama speaking up because then once again, that’s white privilege. The black lady speaking out gets kicked out and can’t come in because she has a voice.

Zibby: That would be for anybody. I feel like I can’t even call my school administrator and be like, “Could so-and-so have this teacher?” I’m too afraid. I’m like, I don’t want to ruffle any feathers in this school.

Cass: Girl, that’s the thing. Okay, so let’s talk about this. We have to ruffle the feathers. For me and for my husband, we are non-political. On our social media platforms, it’s love. My husband teaches businessowners about storytelling and speaking. He literally, after this, is speaking to an entire network marketing company that has over ten thousand people right here on this camera. We don’t want to ruffle feathers. Feather-ruffling is not our thing. We try and keep it PC, like, look, we love everybody. With everything going on, we realized that our silence was not okay. We were hurting, but the fact that we weren’t using our platform to be vocal or our influence to be vocal, it was hurting us more than anything because there were people looking to us. That same network marketing company that reached out to him was because of the post that he made as a black man living in America and what he has been through. The CEO said, “I need you to talk to my field. This is too much for me. Blacks against white, races, sales, COVID, this is a lot going on. I’m looking to you to be the voice.” The fact that he lived in his truth, the fact that I’m living in my truth, it’s opening different types of doors. It’s scary because we are not feather-rufflers. We love everyone. Jesus loves you.

We also have to realize that this stuff is real. Prejudice, racism, all of this craziness is real. If somebody chooses not to do business with us or hire us because we just spoke about, hey, treat black people right and buy from them, then something’s wrong with them. Then that’s just business. We don’t need it. If they’re an undercover person that doesn’t want to hear it, so be it, botta bing, botta boom. To you, I know that’s probably the top school in your area and you really love them. I really would still say to still speak your truth. If there’s someone specific that you want your child to learn from or something that you want to see in terms of crayons or you buy the crayons and drop it off at the school for every class — if you want the book, buy the book and drop it off. That makes it real easy. The activity sheets, hey, I’ll volunteer some time to look through the activity sheets and find you new ones. We could be a part of the solution too. It’s not just saying, hey school, this is what you need do, because we already know, short staff, people tired, too many Zoom meetings. Being a part of the solution and speaking up is a big deal. So I say go ahead and ruffle those feathers. Ruffle them.

Zibby: You are a hundred percent right. That’s a great idea, for people to get the book and give it to their schools and just drop it off as opposed to some sort of theoretical, we should do X, Y, Z. Just freaking do, right?

Cass: Right. Let’s be practical. I literally did an address to a preschool because someone bought it for their preschool class. Then I said every name, like, Elijah, you’re awesome. You got a book! You got a book! I felt like Oprah. You got a book! It was cool that they did that for the students. It matters. Yes, all lives matter, but looking at everything going on in our society, it’s a replay, y’all. It is a replay. Look at twenty years ago. Look at Rodney King. Look at years before that. Look at MLK. Look at slavery. Hello? Do we need to continue? Do we want our kids going out to protest in twenty years because we still haven’t gotten this right? This is just stupid. You and I are human. Give us the same opportunities. Whether my name is Sarah or Shaniqua, it should be the same. Just because we have a different background, doesn’t mean that we can’t work just as hard. It’s scary. Yes, something needs to be done now. If you’re not a part of the solution, seriously, you’re a part of the problem. If you’re sitting back and doing nothing, then see you in twenty years. With your gray hair, your gray chin hairs, see you at the protest line then. It’s bananas.

Zibby: Thank you so much for talking to me about this. I mean it. It really means a lot to me. I want to be able to share your thoughts and feelings which are so genuine and honest and smart. I knew it would be because I already had talked to you, how bright a woman and everything. Even something as simple as a child getting a new picture book can make all the different, well, not all the difference. That’s just a little piece of the difference. I’m just saying, that’s a start.

Cass: It’s a step. I created a whole Amazon store, girl, with resources because it’s the truth. We’re not conscious. If my immediate circle is not conscious, I get it. If I’m here and we sit down every day and you tell me you didn’t know, I totally forgive every person that says they didn’t know, but now you know. When you know better, you do better, Maya Angelou. There’s no more excuses. The question is, what are you going to change? Who are you going to invest in? How can you call others to change? Racist grandma is no longer acceptable in the conversation. Challenge your grandma. I know she’s ninety-two. Challenge your best friend. Challenge your other friends that are making all these crazy remarks online, like, yo, keep that in your house. Don’t put that online. What are you doing? I know one guy that took it down because it was affecting his business, the foolishness that he was saying online. White and black people started to fire him because of the foolishness that he was talking about.

I’ll just touch on this. Many people have a lot to say about the looting and shooting. Understand that there are so many underlying systemic things happening. Remember, there were peaceful protests. MLK peaceful protested. He was assassinated. Colin Kaepernick, he protested, he was fired, very peaceful. The riots after MLK happened for maybe six days. Then the Civil Rights Act was passed six days later. There’s power still in rioting. I don’t condone messing anybody’s stuff up. At the end of the day, I still understand all of the things that go under it. Literally, if somebody slaps you in the face and they don’t say sorry, are you upset? I think so. The only thing is, black people have been getting slapped in the face for centuries. The thing is, are you going to help the hand stop slapping? Hello! Dun, dun, dun.

Here’s one thing that I saw on Facebook. You know, Facebook is like the new place. I don’t watch the news, but I definitely watch social media. It’s definitely been jacking me up, guys. I need to go on a social media fast. I have a friend that went to a store. They said, “Hey, your twenty-dollar-bill/hundred-dollar-bill is counterfeit.” She said, “No, it’s not.” They’re like, “Yes, it is.” So she used her card. Then she went over to the bank and she said to the banker, “Is this counterfeit?” The banker said, “No. Did this store, such-and-such, say that it was counterfeit?” She said yes. He said, “That’s been an ongoing problem.” My girlfriend, she literally was like, “What if the police were present? Could I have ended up like George Floyd?” At the end of the day, it was just an accusation of a counterfeit bill that may or may not have been.

Just understand that there are parallel universes that we walk in. Just be grateful for your life for what it is today, but the question is, what are you going to do with it? What’s going to be between that dash on your tombstone? The day you were born and the day that you died, what are people going to say about that dash? Did you sit complacently? Did you sit silently? Did you make those racial jokes? Did you just be, or did you make a difference? Did you stand up for those who needed their voices to be amplified? Did you invest in black businesses? Did you challenge your schools, your churches, your synagogues, your religious groups, your non-religious groups, your group of groups? Whatever group you’re a part of, did you challenge them? When you lay down on that deathbed, can you look back and say, I’m proud of the person that I was and I’m proud as I sit here because others will know that I made a difference? That’s my charge to you. I’m Coach Cass. Love y’all. Thanks, Zibby.

Zibby: Thanks, Coach Cass. Always great talking to you.

Dr. Casandra Henriquez, PRINCESS ZARA'S BIRTHDAY TRADITION